You can’t do it all by yourself. You may be incredibly talented and dynamic but personal skills are simply not scalable. If you really want to build, you’ll need help from committed and competent partners and/or supporters.

When a General Contractor builds a house, she doesn’t build it individually. That would be inefficient at best and likely impossible. She’ll need an expert to draw the architectural specifications; she’ll need several strong simultaneous hands to pour and navigate the cement foundation; she’ll need several capable hands to scale the wooden and steel framework; she’ll need varied specialists to build out the plumbing, electrical, ductwork, windows, stairwells, fireplaces, and external landscaping. She’ll need to work with various suppliers and permit officials at appropriate sequences so the work continues on a timely basis. Proper planning of laborers needs to take place so their pay correlates with progress without waste. The General Contractor might be the central driver of the overall build and the critical inch of accountability for success or failure, but she must depend on others to achieve the desired outcome.

For the entrepreneur, it’s difficult to concede “control” over what he’s built to date, but if he doesn’t then the eventual scale will never exceed his individual skills, capabilities, and bandwidth. I read a book several years ago called “The Speed of Trust” which provided several empirical and practical examples of how the reliance of good faith in others proved multiple-fold benefits. The most significant take- away was that the achievements could have never been achieved individually. Nobody is suggesting handing over an important asset to unqualified or less than fully committed parties, however “giving up” or “giving in” to others is the wrong mindset. Many entrepreneurial failures stem back to a founder who couldn’t get out of her own way and allow others to improve and drive positive change in the business. 1 will always equal 1, but the collaboration of 1+1 can lead to 3 as the sumof the collective can prove much greater than the individual parts. 1+1=3 and 1+1+1=5 and 5+5=20. This is good math.

In your personal life or your professional life, these lessons apply, don’t go it alone.

Win Your Race

For a number of years, I’ve written at least one blog a month for our newsletter, which is typically focused on my industry (internet, SaaS, and marketing technologies), my profession of executive recruiting, or varied business topics. I’m taking a diversion this month and simply sharing a simple and motivating poem I’ve loved for many years. I came upon it again recently and remain inspired in its’ message and literally get chills when I read it. If you’ve never read it before, enjoy. If you’ve not read it in a long time, enjoy it again for the first time. Read it to your kids before bed or when they wake up. Read it to yourself before bed or when you wake up. GET UP and win your race!

The Race by Dr. Dee Groberg

Whenever I start to hang my head in front of failure’s face, my downward fall is broken by the memory of a race.  A children’s race, young boys, young men; how I remember well,  excitement sure, but also fear, it wasn’t hard to tell.  They all lined up so full of hope, each thought to win that race  or tie for first, or if not that, at least take second place.  Their parents watched from off the side, each cheering for their son,  and each boy hoped to show his folks that he would be the one.

The whistle blew and off they flew, like chariots of fire,  to win, to be the hero there, was each young boy’s desire.  One boy in particular, whose dad was in the crowd, was running in the lead and thought “My dad will be so proud.”  But as he speeded down the field and crossed a shallow dip, the little boy who thought he’d win, lost his step and slipped. Trying hard to catch himself, his arms flew everyplace, and midst the laughter of the crowd he fell flat on his face. As he fell, his hope fell too; he couldn’t win it now. Humiliated, he just wished to disappear somehow.

But as he fell his dad stood up and showed his anxious face, which to the boy so clearly said, “Get up and win that race!” He quickly rose, no damage done, behind a bit that’s all, and ran with all his mind and might to make up for his fall. So anxious to restore himself, to catch up and to win, his mind went faster than his legs. He slipped and fell again. He wished that he had quit before with only one disgrace. “I’m hopeless as a runner now, I shouldn’t try to race.” But through the laughing crowd he searched and found his father’s face  with a steady look that said again, “Get up and win that race!” So he jumped up to try again, ten yards behind the last. “If I’m to gain those yards,” he thought, “I’ve got to run real fast!”  Exceeding everything he had, he regained eight, then ten…  but trying hard to catch the lead, he slipped and fell again.  Defeat! He lay there silently. A tear dropped from his eye.  “There’s no sense running anymore! Three strikes I’m out! Why try? I’ve lost, so what’s the use?” he thought. “I’ll live with my disgrace.” But then he thought about his dad, who soon he’d have to face.

“Get up,” an echo sounded low, “you haven’t lost at all, for all you have to do to win is rise each time you fall.  Get up!” the echo urged him on, “Get up and take your place! You were not meant for failure here! Get up and win that race!” So, up he rose to run once more, refusing to forfeit,  and he resolved that win or lose, at least he wouldn’t quit. So far behind the others now, the most he’d ever been, still he gave it all he had and ran like he could win. Three times he’d fallen stumbling, three times he rose again. Too far behind to hope to win, he still ran to the end.

They cheered another boy who crossed the line and won first place, head high and proud and happy — no falling, no disgrace. But, when the fallen youngster crossed the line, in last place, the crowd gave him a greater cheer for finishing the race. And even though he came in last with head bowed low, unproud,  you would have thought he’d won the race, to listen to the crowd.  And to his dad he sadly said, “I didn’t do so well.” “To me, you won,” his father said. “You rose each time you fell.” And now when things seem dark and bleak and difficult to face, the memory of that little boy helps me in my own race. For all of life is like that race, with ups and downs and all. And all you have to do to win is rise each time you fall.  And when setbacks or bad breaks shout loudly in my face, another voice within me says, “Get up and win that race!”

Happy Thanksgiving!